So you want to be a Dominatrix? Join the queue... #TeenDomme

I had always at the back of my mind fancied myself as a Domme.  My natural alpha female qualities had seen me dominating boys and girls since I started school. My favourite game was to play teacher and accuse my pupils of various misdemeanours whilst they were forbidden to even speak, “fingers on your lips children!  Shut it.. Keep quiet!”  Many Dommes have similar stories. My friend Mistress Evelyn in NYC liked to go invite boys to play in the sand pit and then put sand down their shirt and trousers and watch them itching and scratching  in class. Mistress Scarlett used to demand lunch money and make them shoplift for her ( yes she's  a findom now)  Madame Fifi Von Trix got  into ballbusting at the tender age of 7 and  had a penchant for  booting boys in the testicles if they got lippy. As I got older I starting exercising my power more frequently, by the time I was 15 I thought nothing of slapping my date in an argument, and although my first boyfriend was handsome he was chosen because he had a job and a  nice car. I thought the school bus was beneath me so he would pick me and my friends up from school and drop us home. Boys were fun but they were there to serve me and be used.  My kinky side was also emerging, I was into role play and loved dressing up and acting out various scenarios. I was obsessed with Madonnas sex book. Shortly after  l dropped out of college and became a glamour model,  yes i took my clothes off. It was a lot of fun, we were young ,wild and gorgeous  shooting in cool cities and exotic locations.   We did a lot of partying which is how i got to go to my first fetish club  and discovered my love of latex….. the writing was on the wall.

So you want to be a Dominatrix? Join the queue... #HongKong

I started my reign in Hong Kong, I had decided to take a break from modelling in London and backpack around the world,  After India and Thailand,  Hong Kong was the next stop and I immediately fell in love with the city. I adored everything about it,  The perfect blend of Occidental and Oriental. Chinese  and English culture in complete harmony. A British colony that had developed into a massively built up sophisticated metropolis built round a  mountain and fringed by  gorgeous 32 C* beaches, I loved the HK mentality of work hard and play harder, it was also completely legal at that time as an English girl to work there, no visa required. It was my destiny, I knew I just had to stay but how was I to fund my extravagant way of life? The answer was found in the dodgy places I frequented 'til the early hours, if you are a Hong Konger you will remember the Big Apple and Neptunes, full of triads, riffraff and dealers of all sorts commodities as well as  working girls were who were  raking it in when HK was booming as the gateway to China. I Loved the lifestyle of these ladies of the night  and wanted in.  I couldn't handle every Tim Dick or Harry's filthy paws all over me though but there was possibly a way round this.  Maybe I had it in me to be a dominatrix………

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So you want to be a Dominatrix? Join the queue. #Dommabees....

I can totally see why it's appealing to all these Dommabees,  same reason as it was to me. Hundreds of Dollars/Pounds/Euros an hour but being in full control and able to call all the shots. No one can even touch you unless you give permission. Work where you want and when you want, there's no one to answer to except yourself along with the buzz  you get from having the power that comes from a complete stranger entrusting you with their deepest darkest secrets. It's truly rewarding making someones  fantasies come true. The thing is now everyone is doing it, it's became a lot more competitive. Dommes have upped their game. Anyone thinking it's money for old rope better think again, it's a lot of fun but its serious business too.

So you wanna be a Dominatrix? Join the Queue.

Back in the day when I first became a Domme and confided in someone what my profession was, only my gay friends found it fabulous, most others would be scandalised and occasionally disgusted. Now attitudes have changed, people are more knowledgeable and open minded and it is more likely to be seen as a  cool career rather than something sick and sordid. It used to be pretty underground but over the past 20 years the Domme population has exploded. The internet changed everything and made the scene a lot more transparent, easier for Pro Dommes to advertise and for subs to find us and also opened people's minds to what a cool kickass job it is. When my occupation comes up these days the response is often a blase "oh yeah my girlfriend/neighbour/mum does that"  or "Ooh how thrilling I'd love do that,  can you teach me please?"

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One man's shoe is another man's poison - Fuck You Butt Plug Shoes 6"

I was living in NYC when my best friend and fellow domme arrived home with a pair of these informing me her slave had bought them for their anniversary present. I have to admit it wasn't love at first sight. I thought they were preposterous, a butt plug for a heel? What the hell? What type of slut would wear such a thing? Hmmmm..... It took me about an hour of watching her parade about in them before they started to grow on me and after a while i decided it was essential I had a pair in my collection too. There was one problem, they were only made  in leather and I'm vegan, no animal products in my life thank you very much..... even my whips are cruelty free, until I use them that is. Through twitter I contacted Stuart the erotic and creative director at Ainsley-T and he offered to make a special Vegan pair just for me. Then a slave I haven't  met yet, who is known on the scene as "the Hong Kong slut" offered to sponsor them. They might look slutty but they are certainly not cheap. They were the star of my latest video that I made in Hong Kong with my Chinese slave girl and I think the boys in the trampling cage at Club Pedestal loved them too. I'm addicted and am now coveting a second pair in black with chrome heels or maybe in babypink with the plexiglass heel. Here they are in action, up in a glass bottomed cable car, Hong kong. 

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One Man's shoe is another man's poison - PVC Platform Thigh Boots

Shiny. Slutty. Empowering. 8” heel. The Pretty Woman movie pretty much defined these as the ultimate sexworkers legwear but it’s more likely to be a Dominatrix rather than an escort who turns up with them in her bag of tricks. I would say that they are requested more often than any other pair I have and they are the first thing I throw into my Case of Kink when I am packing for a tour. I got my first pair  given to me on a fetish modelling shoot before I was a Domme and used to love wearing them into town on a Saturday night. It was then I realised the power of Kinky Boots. Just by wearing them my status was elevated to that of an Alpha female, guys would come up and admire then, sometimes ask to kiss them, nothing unusual now but quite a novelty back in the day.  Since  I have gone through  7 or 8 pairs. They get worn out, given away or left behind on sessions and shoots. At the moment I have a pair in NYC, in Hong Kong and here in Brighton. This pair here were ordered from  http://www.pleaserusa.com/ and were gifted to me by a skype slave. 

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One Man's shoe is another man's poison - Classic Black Court Shoes

Elegant. Proper. Timeless.  4” These are quintessential for the real and fetish world. Nearly all women have a pair or they should have. If not. Why not?  What can be sexier than a crisp white shirt, tight black pencil skirt, black seamed stockings and pristine 4 inch shiny pointed toed court shoes. Worn with black rimmed glasses and pinned up hair they are perfect for “Office Bitch” roleplays and I have worn this style from when I was a teenager till now.  I love the fact they are comfortable enough to wear on the street and sexy enough to session in. 

One man's shoe is another man's poison

I have yet to meet a woman who doesn’t love shoes. They are an essential part of the image we create before we go out on parade to the World. Whether a glamorous NY Fashionista addicted to spunking her entire salary on her  Louboutin collection, a London punk devoted to a smelly beaten up pair of studded Dr Martins or a Tokyo Geisha faithful only to her wooden platforms, your choice of footwear can reveal and exhibit your character, status and sexuality even more than your hairstyle does. For a Dominatrix, shoes are even more significant. They are the tools of our trade and just like a carpenter needs a whole collection of screwdrivers, we Dommes need a pair of shoes for every different scenario.

Fetish and kink, as probably most people who are reading this know, is a diverse and infinite thing.  Vanilla folk often imagine we are all into cliched Miss Whiplash scenarios but slaves who like sensual erotic tease and denial would be horrified if they were tied up and beaten. The same goes for shoe fetishists…… The choice of footwear they crave and yearn for is more diverse than a box of Quality Street. Well I say shoes but it could be platform boots or open toed sandals. Or flip flops. Or Uggs…Yes you read me right.  Diverse and infinite thing remember.

Writing this is making me think about all the shoes I used to have but are long gone. I must have had hundreds of pairs and am now down to about 80… that’s the thing with shoes, they don’t last forever unless you never venture outside in them. Bugger that. Some shoes are too fabulous not to party in. They need to be shown off and danced in and worshiped by slaves in fetish clubs where they get the adulation they deserve. In this blog I will write about my favorite shoes, what I love about them, where I bought them or who bought them for me, what type of sessions I wear them for as well as shoes I am currently coveting and are on my hit list for the near future. 

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Welcome to my new site...

Hello Kinksters... Welcome to my new site, hope you love it, its been a long time coming. A good webslave is hard to find you know.  Now I finally have my new site up and running I have decided to make the most of it and have a blog section and write a little about my topsy turvey gypsy domme life. I guess I have plenty to write about, I live between UK and Hong Kong and spend 2 months travelling every year to other places. No matter where I go I always end up meeting the most twisted individuals on the planet and getting myself into situations. Not talking about my clients,  these are the  folk I meet in my day to day life.....  well I guess my clients are twisted too but usually only when they play, not on a 24/7 basis. Hmmm do "normal " peope actually exist or are they just an urban myth?  I reckon if you name any one person who is a paragon of normal and scratch under the surface a little you will find a sordid little secret squirreled away somewhere. And that I guess is a good thing because as Angela Hayes said in American Beauty "There's nothing worse in life than being ordinary."

By the way, speaking of clients if you are hoping for details of sessions here, for filth and perversion, then look elsewhere, I am keeping it classy kids. This is gonna be more about my photo and video shoots, my travels, stuff I buy, art I see, parties I go to and about people.......   people I work with, play with and who make me happy as well as people who drive me crazy,  waste my time and piss me off. Don't worry I'm not going to be moaning too much, I love my life, most Dommes do, its a great gig and we know it. :-)  I can't think of any other career I would rather have. I feel it's a vocation, a calling, like being a nun or a nurse and just as important. I feel very lucky to be born in an era where I can make a living from something that comes naturally to me, is a lot of fun and where I call all the shots. 

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